The Mirror

Carl Jung said if there is anything you would want to change in a child, examine it and see if it is not something that would be better changed in yourself. I say this is true for all people, not just children. When I take the time to notice, I see how some of the most irritating behaviors in others are ones that I share with them. Or ones that I am even worse about doing! It is not easy to step back and reflect. It hurts. Seeing things you don’t like about yourself is not fun. But it makes me a better person every time I walk through the process.

So here are some ugly things I see in myself. Hold the mirror steady, here I go.

I often feel angry about how others aren’t supportive of me and my family because they are too self-involved. Put that one on paper and it gets pretty obvious who is self-involved, eh?

My son’s controlling behavior sometimes gets on my nerves. I mean, when he doesn’t play MY WAY that’s controlling, right? Hmmm.

I often feel unloved. The more I obsess about it, the more I look for evidence that people love me and the more they fail at showing me. In the meantime, what am I doing but withholding my own love based on my judgments? Ouch. That one stings.

I want others to be more patient, more kind, more relaxed in the pressured times. I can’t be, so why would I even think of expecting that of someone else? Especially my 4 year old! Impulse control? What’s that?

Ok, that’s enough self-improvement for one day. Any more and I might just become an actual better person! By the way, its Blogging for LGBT Families day, so please support families of all kinds by sharing some bloggy love!