Thursday, August 7, 2008

The "no yelling" policy

So I have instituted a no yelling policy. For me. Everyone else can yell as much as they want. Well, no, that's not it exactly, but you know what I mean. This is for MY OWN GOOD, darn it. We are on day 4 I think. My brain feels all fuzzy from the no yelling. I didn't post about it originally for the same reason I don't mention my diet changes. Why tell about something I will be self-recriminating about later? I mean, even when I talked about my acupuncturist telling me to go off all sugar and most other foods, I didn't actually DO it.

However, with this no yelling policy, I have done AMAZINGLY well. I don't yell in anger, not in excitement, not across the house. None of those. The one exception is when someone BITES me. Then I scream at the top of my lungs. But that's forgivable, right?

There is one little side effect... I cry instead. I get upset, I almost yell, I stop myself, and burst into tears. Pablo makes me crazy, I cry. I get overwhelmed with too many people wanting my attention at once, I get snappy (no one said ANYTHING about not being snappy with this no yelling nonsense!!) and then, you guessed it, I cry. Not buckets (usually) but I cry enough to feel all geeked out. Fun stuff, right?

It IS better than yelling. Anger is just a cover for fear or sadness (also fear) or whatever you are feeling that's not love. So getting below the anger level is a good thing. Having the time and space to actually get to FEEL my whatever is not really in the picture, but darn it, I am NOT taking it out on others (by yelling) anymore.

GO ME!
... um, I wasn't yelling when I said that. I was just being emphatic....

4 comments:

  1. What a terrific policy! I should do the same thing. I feel better when I yell at first, but afterwards, I feel lousy and out of control. Maybe we should try singing when we feel like yelling?

    -Emily

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  2. I do the same thing. Hope you can stick with it. I try. I really do!

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  3. We're working hard on that here. It's not as easy as one would think.
    Good for you... let me know if you have any tips.

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  4. I fail at this DAILY. Please let me know how this works out, cuz once my life slows down (in one month we move) I would love to jump on that 'quiet' bandwagon!

    Here via blogher!

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