Monday, October 20, 2008

Pearls of Wisdom

I love love love Zip n Tizzy. If you don't know this blog you should. And she is BRILLIANT. After a miserable post of mine the other day, she left a very sweet comment. She mentioned that she gets ignored by her child a lot too. So I emailed her. I asked how she handles it. Since it is my number 1 frustration in parenting, I am desperate to hear how others cope. She emailed me back the Rosetta Stone of getting my kiddo to respond. So far it has 100% effectiveness (I pray it has a long life!). And it is so easy, I should have thought of it myself. God, I love this woman. Are you ready for her brilliance? Sit down. You will laugh at the simplicity of it.

"I know you can hear me, so please ______ like I am asking you to do."

No yelling, no frustration. Just the acknowledgment that he was purposefully ignoring me got him to stop. I only had to say it once. Each time I said the magic phrase, he would jump to my side and do the requested thing. Talk to me, do a chore, whatever. I felt like the freakin' child whisperer.

She also had many other loving and supportive things to say, and I am truly grateful to her for sharing her thoughts with me. Thank you, oh awesome mama of Zip n Tizzy, I am eternally grateful.

1 comment:

  1. Oh, that makes me so happy to hear. Like I said it's so counter intuitive, but that's exactly how Tizzy would respond. Too funny. It's like we've blown their cover and they realize they just have to give in.
    Thanks for the praise. You've really made my day. This parenting gig is HARD WORK! Thank goodness they pay us back every once in a while. I was told yesterday that I was just the greatest. ( For handing out cookies, but I'll take it where I can get it.)
    You have done the same for me so many times. I can't tell you how many times you have written something on your blog that perfectly speaks to what I'm going through right at that moment.
    I'm so glad we've found eachother!